I hope you spent this wonderful long weekend catching up with friends, hitting the beach, sleeping in, and eating as many burgers as you possibly can. Although I certainly partook in a host of holiday festivities, this year something was a little off. It was a little hard to celebrate in the midst of so many national and global tragedies, especially the burning of a whole series of black churches and Donald Trumps assertion that most Mexicans were criminals. It’s hard to feel for a nation that quite possibly might have a more compassionate culture if it was still owned by the British. I took my moments of reflection in church, and then suddenly a light hit me.
Exactly 10 years ago, I came to one of the most expensive cities in the US and made a life for myself. There have definitely ups and downs. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. This is the year to go full gusto! I am mostly there, but I need to tweak some things to help catapult me into the place where I know God wants me to be.
So, here is MY declaration of independence.
1. I declare my independence from credit cards. It starts innocently enough. You need a little help and before you know you are beholden to a bill that’s the same as a down payment on a small house (or a 200 sq ft studio in NYC). I am declaring that if I don’t have it, I don’t have it. It will have to wait. Being financially solvent is more important than any material thing I can “buy”.
2. I declare my independence from an unhealthy work life. Work is supposed to enhance my life, not be my life. During the long days of summer, I declare to leave my office while it is light outside and go out and see some world.
3. I declare my independence from unhealthy relationships. We all have that person. The guy with the killer smile who doesn’t treat you nearly as well as you treat him. The friend who is always in crisis, but when you need to chat is no where to be found. These people are leeches on your personality, time, and energy. Evaluate what you are getting out of your relationships, tweak them if you can, and if not, move on. There is someone else out there who needs a does of your unique awesomesauce.
Let me know! Share your declarations in the comments below or tweet me (@KelDaroe) using #forabeautifullife